The Bachelor alums Arie Luyendyk Jr. and Lauren Burnham Luyendyk dished on the struggles they faced three years into their marriage. Arie and Lauren tied the knot in January 2019, months after their paths first crossed during The Bachelor season 22. Their on-screen journey was no smooth ride, as Arie, who was the season’s lead, sent Lauren packing during the final rose ceremony, leaving Becca Kufrin as the last woman standing and recipient of his engagement ring. Arie famously pulled a switcheroo months later during the season’s After The Final Rose special, dumping Becca before the cameras and proposing to Lauren.
Despite facing many ups and downs earlier in their relationship, their marriage has not been devoid of crisis either. During a sit-down with Chris Harrison on The Most Dramatic Podcast Ever podcast, The Bachelor alums Arie and Lauren opened up about hitting a rough patch in their relationship following the birth of their twins Senna and Lux in June 2021. “We were sleeping in separate bedrooms because we were trying to allow one of us to get sleep one night and then the next night, we’d switch. We were kind of just two ships passing in the night for a while,” Lauren divulged.
Arie & Lauren’s Relationship Saved By Life-Changing Decision
Aside from changes in sleeping patterns, Arie and Lauren found themselves disconnecting from each other in other ways. According to Arie, who also shares daughter Alessie with Lauren, spending alone time without the babies became challenging, eating deeper into their marriage. “We didn’t make any time for each other,” the Bachelor alum explained. “I think at that point, your temper–your fuse–is short, a little bit of bickering and then the sex life kind of goes out the window.” Thankfully, the two found a way to salvage the relationship before hitting rock bottom. They learned to prioritize each other and understand the need to seek external hands, a decision that saved their marriage.
In some ways, Arie and Lauren’s love story is the ideal depiction of a fairytale romance. There is so much to admire about it. From their onscreen connection during their run on The Bachelor to the real-life challenges that led to their breakup, forcing Arie to explore a romance with Becca, their relationship was as real as it gets, deflecting existing doubts that Bachelor Nation romances simply existed just for show. Despite the emergence of a different winner that season, Lauren and Arie quickly rekindled their affection on The Bachelor: After The Final Rose and have been rock solid since their nuptials.
The couple’s latest admission that they faced some marital crisis following the birth of their twins, without betraying any signs of those struggles, brings the realness of their relationship and that of other TV couples into question. After all, they did have a repeat proposal around that time, selling the belief that their marriage was all-roses. It would not be untoward to wonder what other relationship secrets Arie and Lauren or other reality TV couples have stashed away, waiting to explode when fans least expect. Notwithstanding, The Bachelor alums Arie and Lauren certainly deserve some accolades for braving their marital woes in one piece.
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